Friday, January 31, 2020

A Book and a Pot of Coffee- Four reasons why I think they are my best friends.

" What on earth could be more luxurious than a sofa, a book and a cup of coffee" -Anthony Trollope

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A good book and a pot of hot coffee is my best medicine whenever I am feeling low. They say books are good friends and there is hundred percent truth in that. Being an introvert myself, I have always found solace and peace with a good book to read and it keeps me company.

I forget all my worries and troubles when I am reading. For me getting lost in books is the most easiest thing to do if I want to cut all the noise around me.

 At home, I have my favorite corner and my table stacked with books that I am reading. I can live here for the whole day , oblivious  to my surroundings. Unfortunately I do not have the luxury to do that.

Choosing Books 

While at home last week, I started reading a book my neighbors daughter had left behind. After turning a few pages , I  was completely absorbed in the book. Before I realized, I had absent mindedly taken the book home, found my favorite corner and started reading. The book turned out to be  really interesting.  Under normal circumstance I would not have bothered to pick it up or buy it from a store just by reading its title and looking at the cover page. So sometimes the cover pages can be really deceptive.

I have never had any particular strategy for choosing what books I would like to read. But I do know the genre of books that I am generally interested in reading.  I often make a wish list of books I would like to read based on recommendations made on Goodreads or blogs that I follow. Goodreads is also considered as a goldmine for discovering new books. At Airports and book stalls I definitely browse the books that have been displayed as bestsellers. Since most of my reading is on Kindle these days, I also check the amazon recommended books and the amazon recommendation algorithm does not let you down.

I frequently visit the local bookshops and libraries. It is very difficult to choose a good book from the vast collection at some of my local bookshops. I am completely lost and struggle to control my wallet.

Books as Best Friends.

But what is it about books that makes it our best friend. Lets look at some of these reasons.
  • They don't question us and engage us in any kind of war of words. Infact they help us find answers to questions that would be bothering us
  • They make us forget our worries and trouble even if it is for the time that you spend with them.
  • They don't leave you alone, they are always there for you when you need them. I sometimes get up in the middle of the night and start reading . But they don't thing I am crazy.
  • They are non judgmental. They don't judge you and accept you for what you are. Where else in the world can you find someone who does not judge you.
In an environment which is so fast paced , dynamic and filled with noise , books are the only friends that can help lift your spirits, prepare you for the times to come, allow you to de-stress and support you to regain your confidence.

Author Jhumpa Lahiri has very rightly said,"That's the thing about books. They let you travel without moving your feet.

Those were my reasons why I love to read. What about you? Do share your love for reading and any interesting book recommendations.

Monday, January 13, 2020

Three prompts to help you let go of any regrets

"Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can't build on it - it's only good for wallowing in"     Katherine Mansfield   

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 It is said that holding on to regrets causes us to take more aggressive steps and risky actions in the future.

We can regret many things in life like the choices that we made, the career decisions that we made, some of the purchases that we did, but could have been avoided.

Can we do anything to change the past? certainly not. We can only make ourselves more miserable and submerge in the grief. Instead , forgive yourself and move on.

Forgiving yourself is not as easy as it sounds. It can be the most difficult thing to do.

I read this book from Neil Pasricha , You are Awesome. The author gives three prompts that can be used in the morning to help you let go of your regrets. It has been a big take away for me from this book.

Here is the two minute morning practice that Neil recommends. Every Morning grab an index card or a journal and write these three prompts,

  1. I will let go of.....
  2. I am grateful for......
  3. I will focus on.....
I tried this for the last one month. And believe it or not, it really helped me make my day more pleasant and positive. 

Studies have shown that when you welcome your day with a positive mindset, it results in higher productivity and higher creativity.

You feel so relieved and liberated when you write down and complete the three prompts. By following the above simple technique , I make my day more meaningful and stay in the moment.
How about you?